Consider this analogy for unhelpful thoughts:
In a school playground there is a bully & 3 other children.
The bully goes up to the first child & says ‘give me your money or I’ll beat you up’. The first child then empties his pockets and hands over his money.
The bully goes up to the second child & says ‘give me your money or I’ll beat you up’. The second child replies now, because if I give you my money I can’t buy my lunch & you can’t bully me because I’ll tell the teacher’.
The bully goes up to the third child & says ‘give me your money or I’ll beat you up’. The third child says ‘no’ & walks away.
The next day in the playground who does the bully go up to? If that child is not in school that day, who will the bully go to? Why is this?