Mourning via Webcast

I’ve heard stories about people being unable to say goodbye to family when in the hospital, but I’ve also heard stories of funerals with hundreds of people in attendance. And whilst it’s easier for me to sympathise with one case over the other, I also know that neither of them are appropriate. How can I agree that a gathering of hundreds to respect the dead is a dangerous choice, whilst simultaneously regret that I could not be there today in person? I don’t think I would have cared how many were there, if it meant I could be there too.